If you are presently involved in a child custody dispute (or might be involved in one in the future) we have identified information of great importance that you should have.

THIS INFORMATION WILL HELP YOU, AS A FATHER, MAKE YOUR STRONGEST CASE FOR CUSTODY. It will also directly help protect your children now and in the future. Your children will thank you one day for taking "their best interests" seriously!

First, we would like you to know how we have come to be in possession of so much important information. Over the 30-plus years of our working in the child custody field, we have become increasingly involved in cases that frequently may find their way into court. We have acted as expert witnesses, custody evaluators or consultants for hundreds of parents involved in custody disputes all over the country.

Further, as editors of a national publication on custody matters, as responders to a 24-hour "hotline" where we answer questions from professionals about our tests, and as directors of a national organization of custody experts, we continually hear from judges, attorneys, professional experts and parents who in one way or another have been caught up in custody disputes, some of them simple, but most longstanding, complex and bitter.

As a result of all of these activities, we came to gather a huge amount of information on how various psychological and legal strategies, different kinds of evidence, and types of allegations work (or fail to work), both in the courtroom as well as in out-of-court negotiations.

The following are some of our thoughts on what we have experienced. Everything discussed here is covered in our new Strategies handbook.

We were shocked at how many bright, wise, loving---indeed even "savvy"---fathers did not know the single most important fact that must be true if one is to prevail in a custody dispute. And this must be the best kept secret in the world, because even extremely intelligent, sophisticated professionals fail to make use of it. Indeed, even attorneys, who themselves as parents are caught up in custody disputes, frequently do not know how to make his single most important factor work for them.

We identified fourteen "key behaviors" that differentiate between parents who do well in custody disputes from those who do not. We consider these behaviors to be strategically critical.

We have identified what we see as the single biggest mistake a father in a custody dispute can make. And the irony here is that our own legal system actually encourages fathers to make this huge mistake.

If you are a father in a child custody dispute, you must learn to recognize (and deal with) blatantly wrong and immoral strategies that will likely be used against you. To add insult to injury, these strategies can be effective. And in our experience, many attorneys fail to help their clients deal with these tragically effective strategies, because they are more psychological than legal strategies, and attorneys are not often trained either to recognize or deal with them.

Another exceedingly important point is that too many fathers do not fully understand all the important things their attorneys should be doing for them. Simply put, many fathers do not know what they should ask for.

While on the topic of attorneys, we also discovered two important strategies that will literally "force" an attorney to do a better job for a client.

"I don't want to talk now. I'm busy." (The child slams the phone down.)

"You know I don't like to see you!"

"You're bothering us; don't call me !" (The father, rightly, wonders who the "us" is in this statement.)

And the father frequently hears what is a sure sign of a bribed or manipulated child, words and sentences that are obviously not of the child's own creation, but rather from the bitter and vindictive other parent:

"You decided to leave us. This is all your fault. You're not entitled to share in my life anymore."

Unfortunately, most fathers singled out to be the victims of such vitriolic attacks are poorly equipped to deal with them. They start out trying to be calm and loving, but all too soon are worn down by the hurt, frustration and road blocks continuously thrown up when they attempt contacts with the child. They end up either retreating, or counter-attacking---neither of which can lead to a happy outcome. It is essential that fathers caught up in this kind of trap learn the four strategies that can be truly effective and helpful in this situation.

It has made us sad and sick at how often it is blatantly obvious that the wrong parent often wins during the custody process. The best parent loses; the parent who operates "in the best interests of the child" loses! Why? Because it is surprising how many fathers, even very bright, professional people, do not know how to make their best case--even with their own attorneys!

You will find the answers and solutions to EVERYTHING discussed in this letter in our new "Strategies" handbook written for fathers involved in custody disputes.

Unlike a hardcover book, that can take a year or two to produce, we are able to review and update whenever necessary by using the latest information as it becomes available to us through our continuing contact with judges, attorneys, mental health professionals, other parents, the latest scientific research, and experts on many special and unique problems that may arise.

YOU ARE ALWAYS PURCHASING THE LATEST, MOST UP-TO-DATE VERSION!

Finally, it is very important to us, as people (and parents ourselves) who on a daily basis witness what can go wrong for a father caught up in a custody dispute, that we may be able to help you avoid mistakes that can prove disastrous.

Good luck!

Dr. Barry Bricklin and Dr. Gail Elliot

WHAT IS REALLY IMPORTANT HERE? It's not the money that you pay for your "Strategies" (the whole legal process costs so much that the cost of this publication becomes insignificant in comparison) ---it's the fact that you are relying on Dr. Bricklin and Dr. Elliot to help you get through one of the most complicated, most frustrating, and most gut-wrenching periods in your life.

Since 1989, thousands of fathers from every state in the United States have relied on the incredible expertise of Dr. Bricklin and Dr. Elliot to get them through what is a very specialized field, with many hidden dangers for men.